Dating is so hard when you're just out of a long term relationship! One moment you're all set and comfortable and the other moment its all gone, maybe because you CHOSE it to be so. But you're still like "omg, whats going on? Was that the right decision?". Its scary when you've been out of the dating scene for a while. There's new guys, new rules, new challenges, new decisions to make all over again...gets pretty taxing in the beginning. But i guess its all about the moment when you're READY for it. when you're ready to move on, when you think you want to take the leap all over again, let somebody into your personal space, your intensely private moments. How long a break is good enough? Depends on how you deal with it. For some lucky ones, the person is right there, helping you through your tough times and you're too stupid to notice how much he cares, how much he's into you but wont do anything to make you his because he's waiting for you to be ready for him.
But even when he/she is right there, theres always the doubts. Is it the right time? Is he the right guy? Are we compatible? Am i doing the right thing? Is it too soon? Is it going too fast? Then theres the distractions. Other guys you're attracted to but you dont know why! You dont know what you're feeling, what to do. So for a while you put making the decision off. Let time decide, you think. Eventually it all comes around. You have to make the choice. You HAVE to get over what happened and give it another chance. You have to be strong and give yourself hope and take the leap. You have to give him a chance. The first date...the first time you hold hands.....the first kiss.......the giggles.....the private jokes.......presents....flowers.....gestures.....the long rides......the short trips together......the kissing when you think no one's looking......the movies....the late night calls to say "hi"and the call lasting 3 hours.....the first time he says "i love you".......the blushing......its all right there on the other side. Well at least most of the time. There could also be the meaningless relationships, drinking sessions, one night stands, heartbreak, pining for something steady. Its all about how much of a risk are you really willing to take.
I just took the leap.:) and it feels SO good.
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congragulations! you are a lucky girl :)
sometimes you get so comfi that even tough you know that you should move on, the person isnt the one for you, you stay, hoping things will change...hoping against all odds. and that's never going to happen. that is why you should be ready to take the leap. damn, i just marofied some really heavy philosophy!
@ priyam:what if you always thought he was the one! its so much more difficult then.
well, i guess, even though we behave like barney stinson.... we're all ted mosbys deep down!
i was never a stinson to begin with. :D
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